Create an environment where the spirit of cooperation can thrive.

If you want your children to cooperate with you, it is essential that you show them that you respect them. Once you do this, cooperation will follow.

Keep in mind that using these different methods of communication may not work the first time, but as long as you stick to them, you will see the results you desire.

1. *Describe what you see.*
   For example, if the dog needs to be walked, try saying, “I can see the dog pacing up and down near the door,” instead of, “You haven’t taken that dog out all day—you don’t deserve to have a pet!”

2. *Give information.*
   For example, if your child left the milk out for the umpteenth time, try telling them about how milk turns sour when it is left out for too long. Refrain from accusing them of leaving it out and scolding them for it.

3. *Say it with a word.*
   The next time you need your child to do something immediately, phrase it as one, single word instead of launching into a long, angry rant. For example, if you’ve been chasing your child to get into their pajamas and get ready for bed, simply say, “PAJAMAS!”

4. *Talk about your feelings.*
   For example, if your child is pulling on your shirt sleeve to get your attention, turn to them and say, “I don’t like having my sleeve pulled.”

5. *Write a note.*
   For example, if your child needs to finish their homework before watching TV, leave a note on the TV that says “Before you turn this on, THINK, Have I done my homework?”