When Things Fall Apart

Practice meditation

Instructions

Choose a stable seating position.
Settle into a comfortable seat on a cushion or chair, making sure it is level and does not tilt in any direction. This ensures your physical comfort, which is essential for a sustained meditation session.
Adopt a supportive posture.
Sit with your feet flat on the floor or legs comfortably crossed, ensuring your back is straight but not tense, and your front is open. Place your hands on your thighs, palms down. Gaze gently downwards about four to six feet in front of you, and keep your mouth slightly open with your tongue resting lightly at the roof of your mouth. This posture aids in maintaining physical stability and encourages mental relaxation.
Focus lightly on your out-breath.
Dedicate about a quarter of your attention to the natural flow of your out-breath. This touch-and-go approach helps anchor your mind in its natural state of openness without trying to manipulate the breath or achieve a special state.
Use the "touch and let go" technique.
When you find yourself distracted by thoughts, acknowledge them with a gentle mental touch and then release them. Bring your focus back to your out-breath each time. This method helps you maintain presence and avoid getting entangled in your thoughts.
Label your thoughts as "thinking."
Whenever you notice that you've gotten lost in thought—whether planning, worrying, or daydreaming—gently acknowledge these thoughts by labeling them "thinking." Then, without judgment, return your focus to your breathing. This labeling technique cultivates a nonjudgmental attitude and helps you recognize the transient nature of thoughts.
Cultivate an attitude of openness
Meet each thought with unconditional friendliness and allow it to dissolve naturally, similar to how clouds fade in the sky. This approach fosters a kind, open-hearted response to your mental experiences.
Regularly refocus on the present moment.
Remind yourself that the essence of meditation is to stay open and relaxed with whatever comes up, without clinging to or rejecting any thoughts or sensations. When you notice yourself getting attached to specific experiences or resisting others, gently label these reactions as "thinking" and guide your attention back to your breath.
Commit to regular practice. Schedule a regular meditation practice. Use this time to continuously return to your breath, no matter the distractions or feelings that arise. This consistent practice is crucial for developing the stability and clarity needed to handle life's challenges with grace and humor.