Distance yourself from the emotional components of problems to gain a more objective perspective

Imagine that you are a fly on the wall, simply observing the situation
Think about what the situation would look like to an outsider.

Visualize the problem in your mind, adopting a third-person perspective
Try to make objective sense of your problem. Don’t allow yourself to adopt a first-person perspective where you get caught up in your emotions.

Ask yourself, “How will I feel about this 10 years from now?”
What about 15 years from now?

Journal regularly
Writing your negative experiences down will force you to create a narrative. This will help you gain a deeper understanding of your situation.