When Things Fall Apart

Be non-aggressive when expressing opinions

Instructions

Practice noticing your opinions during daily activities.
Start by becoming aware of your opinions as you go about your day. Whether you're eating, working, or talking to someone, pause to recognize any judgments or assumptions you're making. Ask yourself, "Am I forming an opinion?" By identifying these moments, you can start to see how often your perspective shapes your reality. This step is about understanding that what you often take for granted as truth might just be a personal viewpoint.
Label your thoughts as opinions, not facts.
When you catch yourself with a strong opinion, consciously label it as just that—an opinion. This helps you differentiate between what is a subjective perspective and what is an objective fact. It can be as simple as silently saying to yourself, "This is just my opinion," whenever you notice yourself feeling strongly about something. This practice encourages you to hold your views more lightly, which fosters flexibility in your thinking.
Reflect on the impact of your opinions.
Take a moment to reflect on how clinging to your opinions might be affecting your interactions and your emotional state. Ask yourself, "How does holding onto this opinion make me feel?" and "What might change if I let go of this viewpoint?" This reflection can help you see the connection between your mental rigidity and feelings of stress or conflict.
Practice egolessness by letting go of opinions temporarily.
Experiment with temporarily letting go of your opinions. For instance, during a conversation, try to listen without forming judgments or mentally arguing. Focus solely on understanding the other person's perspective. This doesn't mean you have to change your beliefs, but it allows you to engage more openly and learn something new.
Apply nonaggression in discussions about contentious issues.
When discussing sensitive or contentious topics, consciously choose to approach the conversation with nonaggression. Before you speak, consider whether your words are likely to increase tension or foster understanding. Aim to express your views in a way that respects others' perspectives and encourages dialogue rather than conflict.
Cultivate patience and persistence in nonaggressive reform efforts.
Whether you are advocating for social change or trying to resolve personal conflicts, remember that true change often requires time and patience. Commit to sustained effort without attachment to immediate results. This might mean continuing to speak up about issues like environmental protection without succumbing to frustration or anger at the lack of progress.