Examine and gain awareness of all the aspects of your life

Write down what’s important to you
It could be a sport, your career, your family, etc.

Write down what’s actually going on in your life
Examine what is going on in your life or in any recent situations. Be objective about it.

Write down what might be hidden from your view
Think about the things you could’ve missed about the situation. Change your perspective.

Think about how others are involved in your situation
What could others have done that resulted in you ending up in where you are? What can others do that would affect your situation? Also consider their motivations.