Find your own “buttons” and work on deactivating them

Question your impulsive reaction.
When you react angrily, loudly, or just get upset over a simple question, ask yourself, “Did it happen before?” “Do I remember getting in a similar state so quickly?” “What exactly made me feel this way?”

Identify the “button.”
If you keep your cool in similar situations and could look for reasons, you’ll likely find your own psychological “buttons.” Once you know them, it is time to work on them.

Deactivate your “buttons.”
Sometimes the cure is as easy as learning to notice a button has been pushed and then using our conscious will to alter our reaction. We do something similar when, while driving somewhere on autopilot, we switch to conscious control and alter our route to avoid bad traffic that we can see ahead.