The Confidence Code

Challenge and reframe negative thoughts

Instructions

Become aware of the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Start by paying attention to your thoughts and emotions in different situations. Notice how your thoughts can trigger different emotions and behaviors. Write your reflections down.
Record your negative automatic thoughts (NATs) in a journal.
Keep a journal handy and write down any negative automatic thoughts that come to mind. These are the thoughts that automatically pop up when you encounter a situation, often leading to negative emotions and behaviors.
Reframe negative thoughts with a different perspective.
Once you have identified your NATs, look for a different perspective and reframe the thought. This could mean finding a more positive or neutral interpretation of the situation. For example, instead of thinking, "I'm a failure because I made a mistake,” reframe it as "Making mistakes is a natural part of learning and growth."
Practice self-compassion.
Be kind and compassionate to yourself, just as you would be to a friend who shared the same negative thought. Imagine what you would say to your friend and apply it to yourself. This could include positive affirmations or simply acknowledging that you are doing your best.
Let go of the negative thoughts.
Once you have written down your negative thoughts, you can choose to symbolically get rid of them. This could involve tearing up the paper and throwing it away, or carrying it around with you to remind yourself to let go of the negative thought.
Counter negative thoughts with facts.
When faced with negative thoughts, try to counter them with facts. Ask yourself if the negative thought is based on reality or if it's just your interpretation of the situation. Challenge the negative thought with evidence that supports a more positive or neutral interpretation. For example, if you're thinking, "I'm not good enough," ask yourself, "What evidence do I have that supports this thought?” "What evidence do I have that contradicts it?" If there's no fact or evidence that supports that thought, simply discard it.