Handle rocky moments

Stop the blaming game.
Stop using the pronouns "I" and "you" and blaming each other. Instead, start using the word "we."

Analyze the situation together and objectively as a couple.
Think about the last time you and your partner faced a distressing incident or argument and explain it objectively. Tell your partner to do the same on a separate piece of paper.  Then, describe and connect your actions during the incident. Finally, compare your papers and come up with a combined version of the incident on which you can both agree.

Talk and share deep emotions.
Include your feelings and how each of you contributed to your partner's emotional response. Share your thoughts and discuss your more intense emotions about that situation.

Come up with better conflict resolution.
Think about what you said to each other at the end of the conflict. Then, devise a better approach to close the conversation.