The Defining Decade
Romantic relationships
Avoid the cohabitation effect
from The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay
How to Apply This
- Discuss why you and your partner want to live together.
Talk about your motivations for living together and what it will mean for your relationship. - Establish boundaries.
Set expectations and boundaries for your relationship, such as how you will handle finances and how you will handle disagreements. - Be intentional about the transition.
Have conversations about the transition from living together to marriage. Talk about the ring, the date, the venue, and the invitations. - Understand the risks.
Be aware that living together before an engagement can lead to poorer communication, lower levels of commitment, and greater marital instability. - Don't cohabitate before an engagement.
If this is not possible, couples should get clear on each person’s commitment level before moving in.
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