Identify your feelings as they arise and find balance
from Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman
How to Apply This
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When something unexpected/surprising/devastating happens, identify what you feel
Self-awareness has a more powerful effect on strong, aversive feelings: the realization “This is anger I’m feeling” offers a greater degree of freedom—not just the option not to act on it, but the added option to try to let go of it. -
Watch your reaction
You have two minds: thinking (rational) and feeling (irrational). Which one is in control in this situation? -
Adjust your balance
Being totally rational is not the solution. You have to find the balance between rationality and emotion-based behavior.
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