Perform the ‘Feeling Better’ exercise

Write a letter to the person whom you are upset about losing.
Explore each of the four healing emotions. Start with the feeling you feel most strongly, and take about two or three minutes to feel each emotion. Imagine that the person is hearing everything you say. You can use this format as a guide:
“Dear ___, I am writing this letter to share my pain in order to find acceptance, forgiveness, and love. Right now, I feel angry that…I feel angry because…I feel angry when… I don’t like…I wish that…. (once this is done, replace anger with sadness, fear, and sorrow in subsequent paragraphs) Thank you for listening, Love, Name “

Write a response letter to yourself.
Pretend you are the person with whom you are sharing your feelings and write the response you want to hear. Here is a suggested structure:
Dear _ ,
a) Thank you for . . .
b) I understand . . .
c) I am sorry . . .
d) Please forgive me for . . .
e) I want you to know . . .
f) You deserve . . .
g) I want . . .

Express and affirm your positive feelings of forgiveness, understanding, gratitude, and trust.
Write out your positive feelings. Here’s a suggested format:
a) Thank you for . . .
b) I understand . . .
c) I realize that . . .
d) I know . . .
e) I forgive . . .
f) I am grateful for . . .
g) I trust that . . .
h) Right now in my life, I am in the process of . . .