Practice nonreaction.
Nonreaction is a strength. Each time it is recognized, the mental habit of ‘reacting’ is weakened. It is one of the most effective ways of going beyond ego in yourself, and of dissolving the collective human ego.
Instructions
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Notice when you complain, gossip, and label people.
What are people doing that triggers you to react this way? Do these thoughts and words energize you or make you feel superior and right? -
Practice nonreaction when others complain, gossip, and label.
People’s behaviors and your reactions are mostly conditioned mind-patterns. When you realize it’s not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were. -
Forgive or overlook and accept the behavior (yours and theirs) with compassion.
Eventually, you will be able to catch yourself before you complain, gossip, or label.