Rely on objective perception, not subjective judgment

Choose a situation from your past or present and describe it out loud, as if you were telling a story to a stranger.
You can record yourself and play the recording back for step 5. For example, “My ex-boyfriend showed up at my door one night two weeks after we broke up. He was agitated and tense, possibly drunk too, shouting my name and refusing to leave…”

Include any intuitive signals you may have had.
“I had had an uneasy feeling about the breakup ever since it happened because he was too calm when I ended things…”

Pay attention to any seemingly random details that pop up in your mind.
These are potential intuitive signals that are worthy of consideration. “When he showed up, I suddenly remembered he’d told me about a movie he liked where a woman gets assaulted by her ex…”

Notice and clear your mind of preconceptions, instinctive denials, and judgments from the past.
Watch out for thoughts like: “but he was really sweet to me even after the breakup, he couldn’t possibly do anything bad…”

Evaluate the likelihood of harm or danger with all this new information in mind.