Work to improve your relationship

Show interest and concern about your partner’s wellbeing.
When your partner wants to connect with you and express any concerns, you should be engaged in the conversation while showing reassurance. Don’t expect your partner to fully open up in front of you while you sit on the couch watching the television, barely paying attention to them.

Maintain focus on the problem without generalizing the conflict.
Do not deviate from the subject, starting to complain about your partner not paying attention to you while remembering how he/she did not do the laundry the other day. Address the issue that’s bothering you and come to an understanding of how to resolve it.

Be willing to engage and compromise.
To become more secure, both partners need to be physically and emotionally present. Once the issue is clear to both sides, you have to be willing to deal with it and find a compromise so that you can both be satisfied with each other’s boundaries and meet each other’s needs.