Mentorist Essentials for 2022

The opposite of happiness is not sadness. It is boredom. People ask themselves, “What do I want?” or, “What are my goals?” while the better question is, “What would excite me?”

When people say to follow your passion or your bliss, they’re actually referring to the same singular concept: excitement.

Using the Goal Setting to the Now approach will help you set a clear timeline for you to achieve your end goal (i.e., your Someday Goal). It’s similar to the domino effect: what you do right now will help you achieve what you want tomorrow; what you do tomorrow will help you achieve what you want next week; and so on, until you have achieved your Someday Goal.

Everyone can set goals, but you should be focused on setting meaningful goals which are achievable. Mediocre people rarely put in extraordinary efforts to succeed because they already expect two outcomes: failure or success. 

However, you can achieve extraordinary things by setting clear goals where the only outcome is success. Plus, through the process of achieving one meaningful goal, you will surely learn valuable knowledge and skills that will help you throughout your life.

There are a lot of things that want to take up your time. Learn to say “no” to most of them. Your time is precious, and only you get to decide how to use it.

Research shows that people who say “no” to requests of their time are happier and have more energy.

External triggers often lead to distraction. Cues in our environment like notifications, calls from our cell phones and interruptions from other people take us off track. 

While they are not always harmful, we must learn how to discern whether the external trigger leads to accomplishing our task or distracts us away from it. To discern if the trigger is helpful or harmful, we must learn to ask ourselves: Is this trigger serving me or am I serving it? 

Our devices have features that we can utilize in order to make ourselves indistractable. In less than an hour, we can configure our phones and our desktops to help us focus on the work that needs to be done.

This model will provide you with a useful framework around which you can structure your tasks. It will help you define your work and priorities so you know what to work on and when to work on it.

Usually, bad habits give us instant satisfaction, and the bad effects are someday in the future. Similarly, good habits don’t give us instant satisfaction and the positive impacts are delayed for months or years. 

What you can do here is to add a little bit of immediate pleasure whenever you practice your good habits. This triggers your mind to associate pleasure with the habit and you’ll find it easier and easier to practice.